The journey out of depression is often a lonely one. I am sorry if you are on that path now. Maybe you have come through to the other side. Maybe you are in the depths of it. Whatever stage you are in you do not have to be alone. If you have been down this rabbit hole in the past, you know there is a way out.
You know and I know there is no one way to defeat depression. It is different for everyone.
There is one common bond…we are all human. ADMIT YOU ARE HUMAN
As humans we all produce certain chemicals called neurotransmitters. That is what all those antidepressant medications are developed to do, stimulate our neurotransmitters to start firing. Something made them stop. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. KNOWING WHAT PHYSIOLOGICAL THING IS HAPPENING IN YOUR BODY MAKES IT FIXABLE.
There is a way to stimulate our naturally occurring neurotransmitters to produce the “I feel good chemicals” that we need to get ourselves out of the pit..
Short bursts of moderate intensity exercise can create new brain pathways and prevent negative thought patterns.
It sounds simple but as you know it takes hard work and a lot of kicking your own butt. Out of bed, out the door, off the couch, out of the refrigerator.
There is that prayer that reflects the above steps it goes like this:
Prayer for Serenity
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time,
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardship as a pathway to peace;
taking, as Jesus did,
this sinful world as it is,
not as I would have it;
trusting that You will make all things right
if I surrender to Your will;
so that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with You forever in the next.
Let’s break it down. The definition of serenity :the state of being calm, peaceful, and untroubled pretty much says what we are shooting for. Keep that in mind as you read on.
Accepting the things we cannot change. There are just a few, the main one is “OTHER PEOPLE” We can try all we can but the only way to change someone else is for them to make up their minds to do it. We can be good examples, and do all we can to help others achieve their goals. Who knows in the process we may help someone invent something that saves our planet.
The courage to change the things we can. This is where we can actually start to fire up those neurotransmitters. By setting reasonable goals and achieving them, produces a surge of dopamine. Dopamine is one of the feel good hormones. Once fired up can create a domino effect of feel better, do more, feel better. Achievement produces this surge. Taking that first step and risking failure is where courage comes into play.
Living one day at a time and enjoying one moment at a time. This is crucial because it forces you to move on. To forgive yourself and others. If you fail one day, my mantra is,”get yourself up, brush off the dirt and get back on the bike”
Accepting hardship as a path to peace is the key to being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is the way out of the hole of depression.
The last part is the hardest part and that is surrendering all your worries and trusting in God that everything will be ok. The flowers in the vase below are from my alley garden. They get the least attention and very little water. Yet year after year they produce a glorious array of color in the fall. It is a life lesson, that maybe all the fussing and worry that we do to try and change something or someone doesn’t really make a difference. Things will flourish and bloom in the right climate and conditions even without our worry.