I was asked today about “the test” for menopause.
“What test?” “I don’t know anything about no test for menopause!” I replied.
I am all about all things natural. Natural childbirth, natural diet, natural exercise. To take a test for something that is natural is frivolous to me.
Menopause is a right of passage for all women. It is as sacred as the transition from being a girl to becoming a woman. It is different for every woman. Each woman’s individuality should be celebrated. Menopause is not something that you can plan or measure or calculate. True, there are some tell tale signs that can be markers that this change is about to occur. Again not everyone will experience it the same way.
It is one of the mysteries of being a woman. We can plan for the birth of our child and know approximately when the arrival date is, but as a labor and delivery nurse with 17 years of experience, I know that it is still after eons of research not clear what causes labor to start. Yes they know how to stop it, and how to induce it, and have some clue to the mechanism of spontaneous labor. But it is still part of the mystery of life.
It is true for the other end of the circle of life. I’m talking about end of life. For the past 10 years I have worked as a Hospice nurse and have seen many similarities between the birthing experience and the dying experience. It is something we all (not just women) must go through someday. I tell my clients to think about how they want it to go down. Do they want to be surrounded by loved ones as you transition to the next level? Just as it is when you are in transition phase of labor, you want certain people to be in the room and certain people close by. No one knows the exact time when someone will take their last breath. We watch for signs.
I recommend this for all turning points in life. Watch for signs.
In the 1999 film The Matrix, there is a scene in the apartment of the character known as the Oracle. Above her kitchen door hangs a plaque with the following inscription, “Nosce temet,”, Greek for “Know thyself,” from the temple of Apollo at Delphi. Just as those seeking advice from Apollo had to first to know themselves before they could fit that guidance to their own situations, so, Neo must know himself first before he’ll ever understand his destiny in relation to the situations fortune has placed him in. Or, as Socrates might put it,
“the unexamined life is not worth the living”
Know when you have had enough of a situation, whether it is a job, a relationship, a home or car. Know the signs of when these situations are affecting your health and your productivity. There is no test one can take to measure these things.
My good friend Sharon passed away peacefully last spring in the hospital after her long battle with cancer. She slipped away after telling her young pastor, “go home, I’m sure you have better things to do than sit here with me”
I can only guess that Sharon knew herself better and knew she was about to transition to her real home in heaven, where she would soon be dancing.
Whatever the scenario is, we are all able to tap into a certain amount of natural womanly insight and premonition. Trust this in yourself. Let the natural process of things take place without trying to hurry up your knowledge of a thing. Listen to your body and learn to listen to the still small voice.
Forget about the test.